Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 611 of the wildly successful lifestyle podcast! Im Heidi and I’m glad you’re here. I lay bare a lot of my feelings and experiences on this podcast because not only does it help me work them out and learn from them and grow but I hope you also see a glimpse of where you can relate and grow too. This episode is no different! Have you ever allowed a person or situation to make you feel less than or unworthy? This episode is for you. I shed a couple tears sharing this one. Probably because it touches the pain point of the 13 year old me from episode 610 but shining a light in dark places make them less scary so maybe you don’t have the exact same things I have, but maybe you relate in someway and remember to deal with and feel the feelings rather than push them deeper down. Bringing them into the light lessens their hold, it also shows you why maybe you’ve responded the way you have in the past.
A few years ago I went to a local fine jewelry store. I was looking for a specific bracelet for my sister and also looking for ideas for my brother to buy his wife as well. I walked in to the lovely litttle store and everything just dazzled. The lights were set to make each piece of jewelry look fantastic and they did. I’m looking around when a young woman I’m gonna say she was about 28 but she was dripping with diamonds, anyway she asks me if I am looking for something specific. I tell her I am looking for bracelets one for my sister and one for my sister in law. I’m helping my brother and brother in law find a gift for them. She asks me their age and I tell them.
She then proceeds to tell me what each one of the girls, my sis and sis in law should have already in their collection based on their age and what I should be considering for them now. I kid you not for my sister in law she was suggesting this like $25k bracelet and my sister who is younger she should be looking at nothing less than these bracelets which were also thousands of dollars. She didn’t ask my budget she just presumed to tell me anything other than what she suggested would be inappropriate appropriate for their age.
So I’m thinking in my head like what world does this girl live in? I found myself too embarrassed to now tell her oh well the budget for what I’m looking for was around $1500.00 which I know they have because a friend just got her beautiful bracelet there for that price. But by now At this point I’m feeling about 5” tall and wouldn’t buy anything from this girl if my life depended on it. So I look a little more tell her I will give them the information and quickly leave feeling uncomfortable that I even went in there in the first place. When I got in my car I thought I wish I had just put my shoulders back and smiled politely and said “that’s not what our budget is, we are looking for something more in the $1500 range. Why couldn’t I have just done that? I know why it’s because I didn’t want to feel like I didn’t belong in that store. When I told my husband about it later he said “we can afford to buy anything in that store, you do belong in there if you wanted to”. Have you ever been in a situation like this? Where someone says something intentionally or unintentionally that makes you feel unworthy? Before I go on I just want to remind us all, it isn’t the fault of the person saying the thing, it’s always you and the way you take it. She could say that to 10 different women and she would have 10 different responses. It’s on me to manage my own feelings, not her so I can’t put the blame for my feelings on her. Let’s all remember that. But I do want to give you the gift of this story I heard this week because it will remind us all of something really beautiful. It was a story on X told by Keera…and it’s this.
A young girl graduates high school and her dad says “I have something really special for you. He hands her the keys to a car he bought years ago. He tells her before you can celebrate I have an assignment for you. Take this car to a dealership and ask what they would pay for it. She comes back a few hours later and says they said it’s too old and needs too many repairs for them to give her anything. He nods and then tells her ok now take it to a pawn shop, she comes back and says they offered $1000 saying it’s too beat up. Dad smiles but he’s not done. He says now take it to that car club down the road, don’t try to sell it, just show them. She comes back home stunned. She said dad at least 3 people offered me $100,000 for it, they said it’s rare and in unbelievable shape for its year! Dad smiles and drops the line she’ll never forget. It’s the same car, same condition, 3 completely different values. Your worth never changes, the room your standing in does. If a place makes you feel small or unseen, don’t beg for recognition, just realize you’re in the wrong room. Go where people understand what you bring, because the right environment will never lower you it will multiply you. That’s the lesson. There’s work to be done but your worth never changes.
We have found a new jewelry store that we use now for any gifts we are buying. Lovely place. So happy and friendly. Just totally fine with whatever budget you have. They are always so helpful and thankful. That’s the kind of room I want to be in. I’m worthy in any room I walk in, but I also have to choose the rooms that multiply me instead of lowering me. That’s the work. That’s our job. It’s not someone else’s job to make you feel a certain way. You are responsible for you and no one else and your worthiness never changes regardless of the room you’re in.
Share this with three people who need to remember they are unconditionally worthy. I love you guys, I’ll talk to you in a few days.
