Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 302 of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! Nice to be with you guys. Thanks for always listening and also for sharing the ones that stand out for you. And don’t forget to go and give me a 5 star rating if you’re loving the episodes. It means a lot~!
In this age of technology we can easily search any topic and find it. When you search for something…you expect for that to be what you come up with right?
When you search on Spotify for country music, are you surprised when you get country music options? No. Cause that’s what you’re looking for, that’s what you put out there that you wanted and that’s what you got. You put in a google search for something and you’re going to start seeing that everywhere. It almost seems like technology can even read our minds anymore.
Life works kind of the way a google search or a Spotify search works. What you think about or what you put out there is what you get back.
If you think that people are out to get you at work, that’s what you’re unintentionally searching for. If you think that your family doesn’t love you, you unintentionally search for evidence of that. If you constantly think negative thoughts about you’re partner, that’s what you’re unintentionally searching for. And guess what,…Don’t be surprised when you get back what your searching for.
We create our life in our head, every single one of us do it. All day long. We have 60,000 thoughts a day if you don’t think that’s true then you’re creating a lot that you’re not aware of. It’s crucial that we start becoming aware of what our thoughts are having us look for and be intentional of what we want to think about. That’s how we create the life we want rather than accepting a life by default.
Because we all create these stories in our head about everything. I’m spending more time with my family and really enjoying it and I realized that all along I was definitely the one pulling away because of the stories in my head. Thank goodness I got coaching on that. But these stories wreck our lives. And with technology it’s worse than ever. I was staying with my older sister and I told my mom and dad I would come say bye before I left. They live next door to her. So I’m getting ready to leave and I swing by and they aren’t home, I called my mom a couple times, no answer, I assume she’s busy…so I told my sister to tell mom when she sees her that I tried to call and I head back home. So a few minutes later my mom gets to my sisters and I have already left. And she had no missed calls on her phone. These types of things happen all the time and cause all kinds of problems. My old story might have been she’s ignoring my calls. My moms story may have been, that’s rude, she just left without saying goodbye. But I am very careful now to keep lines of communication clear and open and I’m also aware of what I’m making things mean. She actually never even got my calls and my sister told her I was sitting here when she tried to call you several times. You gotta be careful, out in the country man you can’t rely on technology, honest you never should. I’ve had many texts I wrote and forgot to press send.
You see if I had been looking from the viewpoint of my old perceptions that my family is pulling away or doesn’t care, that’s what I would have found when my mom didn’t answer my calls. Our stories wreak havoc. And it’s usually all about our perception.
It’s our perception of things that is hurting us. And guess what. We control our perception.
But in order to control your perception you have to know what influence your perception is under.
That’s our work. Each one of us is responsible for the relationships we have and the trajectory our life is on. No one but you can change it.
It’s easy to just regurgitate all the old stories you’ve been telling yourself forever. Like me, I’ve had to completely revamp my thoughts on life from when I was growing up. When you think the world is gonna end tomorrow, you’re searching for things to confirm that. you’re certainly not planning for your future. That’s how I was raised. When you think your family will reject you completely if you don’t follow their religion, you search for evidence of that. You’re not just loving unconditionally. Remember when you search Spotify for country music..don’t be surprised when you get country music.
Maybe your perception is under the influence of the propaganda that has us all under assault? The divisive propaganda like politics, main stream media, social media that is all designed to keep us in a state of chaos. I don’t think it’s one big plan, I think it’s media trying to make the most money it can. I cant blame them, I can only blame myself if I allow it to be what influences my perception of the world.
If you watch the opinion news and that’s all of it, it’s all opinion anymore if you watch that regularly and think you’re having a unique thought, think again. You’re under the influence of something and it’s whatever you allow in the most and that is what is influencing the stories in your head.
Of course we are always going to be influenced by something. Let’s just make sure we are aware of it. Let’s just make sure we control our thoughts and what we think, which leads to our perception. When we allow our thoughts to be formed by negative influences don’t be surprised when you start seeing negative things everywhere. When we feel negative emotion, it usually means you innately would think something else which is why it feels so bad. When I judge someone, it feels yucky because innately I want to just love. When I’m angry at someone it feels bad because I innately want to love them.
When you are very specific in a google search you get very specific in what you get back.
My challenge to you is to be very specific in what you’re thinking about. Focus your attention on things that create a life you want to live. When you wake up ask how am I going to make today extraordinary? How would things change if you searched for that? Or maybe What can I do to make my partner feel special and loved today? How would that change what you’re looking for? Or finally, What can I do to view everyone I meet in a positive light? Intentional thinking is a huge part of what creates a wildly successful life! I love you guys I’ll talk to you in a few days!
