Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 448 of the wildly successful lifestyle podcast! Hows your day going? I hope no matter what’s going on, you’re handling it with grace and handling it with the part of you that knows that things are always working in your favor, being open to seeing that allows you to see it everywhere. And I’m here for you too, with each episode I always pray that I reach the people that this is meant to reach and you are obviously one of them so here’s to us, hanging out again this week, which is amazing.
Alright, I wonder how many of you guys listening remember Delilah do you remember Delilah? Did you listen to Delilah? She was on the radio her song was Delilah. I’m so sorry I had to do that I told you guys I wouldn’t sing to you and here I am singing to you anyway, so Delilah Was a big part of my teenage years. I loved how she made people feel. Now I had no idea what she looked like because she was on the radio, you knew her from her voice, not her face. You knew her from the way she made people feel. I was having my morning talk with Molly and she was saying you gotta get on TikTok. She said you need to get back on doing your videos on Instagram and I just said to her I was like I don’t want to do that. That’s some thing that isn’t fun to me about that. I just told, I don’t want my face plastered everywhere. I don’t mind my voice being out there, but I don’t want my face plastered out there and I said I kinda wanna be like Delilah where you know her voice, but you had no idea how she looks. but the thing about Delilah that I liked the most and that I feel like I want to emulate is she was a master at making people feel seen and heard, by way of music she would play. If you don’t know who she is, she had a radio show and people would call in with a problem they were having or a beautiful moment they were having and she would just listen and she would feel what they feel and you knew it because she would always pick a song that was fitting to their story. So if they needed encouragement, or they were newly in love, or if they had lost a pet or a loved one, she always knew what to play. I was actually tearing up thinking about it now because she was so good at it, but she made people feel seen and she made them feel heard and though that one person‘s phone call so many other people out there feeling the same way also felt seen and heard.
I was in the dentist office this week. I had a crown come off, I had to confess I was eating one of those ginger chews, I mean that’s basically asking for the crown to come off, really. I hope you’re not eating….anyway, it had to go back on, so I’m there and as I’m leaving the sweet receptionist was talking about my shoes and she loved my shoes so much and then she proceeded to tell me how she was kind of obsessed with shoes and had great shoeand I was just listening and she said I get my style from my grandmother , and she was the most stylish woman I’ve ever met and she always was up until the time she died….Now,I noticed my brain immediately wanted to go to my grandmother. I wanted to tell her how my grandmother was also so very stylish until she died too. But Ive been really working on being aware of my thoughts and so I caught myself and I thought, this is a good moment to just be quiet and curious about someone else. It was a good moment for me to allow someone else to feel really seen and heard instead of making it about me. So I proceeded to ask her questions about her grandmother. I stopped being in my head about what I could add about my story and just got curious about hers. so I asked her all kinds of questions about her grandmother and she told me how at 52. She was rocking leather pants and heels and she just always was the most stylish grandmother and that reminded her of her other grandmother who is just the opposite and I asked her about that grandmother and she told me how she would read her books and had five children never said a bad word about anyone. and I just let her tell her story even asking questions to show my interest cause I was interested and I wanted her to have that moment and I wanted to be the one that gave her that moment to feel seen and heard and feel good about her grandmothers, I realized right then something about myself that I often will when somebody is telling me a story I will be thinking of my own story and how I could somehow inject that into the conversation. Maybe even making mine a little bit better. Maybe my grandmother lives a little bit longer or she modeled. Things like that. But that was just my ego wanting to dominate the conversation. I’ve been working on allowing space for others to feel seen and heard not always having to put my story out there. Being really present with the person Im talking to means really listening to what they are saying without feeling the need to make it about me. That’s what Delilah did that made her so popular and if I want to be like her, I have a lot of work to do but as I always say “I’m here for it”
So let me ask you a question. Throughout this episode have you wondered who in your life allows you to feel seen and heard? Have you had that thought of who do I have in my life that lets me just feel seen and heard. There’s nothing wrong with that thought…. but I want to ask a different question, one that might make you feel even better and that’s Who in your life needs to feel seen and heard? Is there someone, maybe even a stranger that you could allow space just to let them tell their story and you being present and not being in your head about it…sometimes that’s all it takes for someone else to feel seen and heard. l have to say, It felt really good to just not say anything and just ask questions about that lady’s grandmother. It actually I think felt better than me putting my story out there about my stylish grandmother. In fact I think I honored my grandmother even more for that because she was one of the best listeners. She just listened when I would tell a story and I’m learning to just listen too. I think she’d be proud.
In honor of Delilah…my challenge to you this week, when someone’s telling a story to you or telling you anything, don’t let your ego take over and feel the need to inject your own story. Be present and just listen and get curious, it feels really good. I’m glad we’re doing this work together. If you’re listening on spotify, you can comment on how you enjoyed the episode. I love reading them when you do, I hope you know that, in a way, you’re making me feel seen and heard too so thank you. Don’t forget to give me a 5 star review if you’re loving them it helps me reach more people. Share this with 3 people who make you feel seen and heard. I love you guys, I’ll talk to you in a few days.
