Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 647 of the wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! I’m Heidi and I’m happy you’re here, I really am. I often get asked how I come up with the content for each episode and honestly often times I think about what is one thing that I could put out into the world today that will maybe help someone get through the week in a lighter, brighter way? Sometimes, it’s just lessons I’ve learned myself and other times, I get inspired by a quote or a message someone else puts out. Most of my ideas happen around the time of my meditation, which is the first thing I do in the morning after taking the boys out and getting my coffee. And once I have an idea I dwell on it and develop it and then I record. Like I’ve said before it helps keep my head in the game and I hope it helps you keep yours in the game too. Because our world is shaped by how we see it. It’s shaped by the thoughts we have. Yes things happen that are good and things happen that are not good, but we don’t have to be on a roller coaster of emotions ALL THE TIME. There is a stillness and a sense of peace we can have regardless of what is going on in the world around us.
I heard Jordan Peterson quoting a Louise Hay prayer this week and he said if you will start your day with this prayer every day, your life will change, not because the things around you change but because you change, the way you look at the things around you change. Now I have been using a version of this prayer for years, but the way he put it was so beautiful and so timely. It felt like a warm hug. He said this: All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. And out of each experience I go through only good will come to me. I am safe, I am protected and I am loved.
If you wake up every morning and repeat this prayer how different could your life be in even just a few days? I made a note in my notes on my phone and pinned it and then I sent it out to several of my friends who I thought would love it as much as I did. One of my best friends sent me a text back saying thank you I really needed that today. A little flag went up in my head to check in on her because that wasn’t a normal text I would see from her. So a little later I called her and as we talked she told me one of her dear friends had passed away kind of suddenly, they did a lot together with them as couples. He had only been sick for 3 weeks, she said she’s been in a little bit of a funk because of it. I know how hard that is for her because they did quite a bit with that couple and now he’s gone and that leaves a hole. After we got off the phone I started thinking about that Quote I sent her “All is well, everything is working out for my highest good, and each experience I go through only good will come to me. I am safe, I am protected, and I am loved. And I thought oof that’s a tough one to digest when you lose someone you love. How does that prayer work when the roller coaster isn’t just a bad day, what if it’s life altering like divorce or death of a loved one?
I mean how does “All is well” work in that situation? And not only those situations but any situation where your brain is telling you “I can’t handle this”. How does it work out when the really tough stuff in life happens? Well it doesn’t mean “everything is fine and I’m not devastated” but it does remind you that in the deepest part of you your spirit, your inner guidance system, whatever you call it, there is still a place where all is well. Your loved one is safe now. You are still held. The love you shared didn’t disappear. It’s like that prayer is saying “This hurts like hell, and right here, right now, something in the Universe is still ok”. Our brains are desperately bad about going to worse case scenario where we will never get through this, but this quote reminds us that deep down, we know eventually we will be ok. I’ve seen it in my own life where I’ve gotten through really hard times, I have seen it with my own big sister, there are so many times now where I see her happy and thriving even though she lost the love of her life, 3 years ago when he died she wasn’t sure happy was possible.
As the quote continues with “everything is working out for my highest good” some of the things we deal with like death or any super hard things we go through, maybe divorce or illness….this is where trust comes into play. It reminds you that even this heartbreaking loss can somehow (maybe you cant see it yet) but it can somehow serve your highest good. It might deepen your compassion, make you hug your kids a little tighter, it might push you to live more fully….it’s not anything you have to figure out today but keeping the door open that there’s a bigger picture at work here.
Then there’s the part where it says “out of each experience I go through only good will come to me”. How is that possible in certain situations like loss of a loved one? Well, Grief is the experience here and out of that good CAN come. Maybe You discover a strength you didn’t know you have, or you show up differently for people who are also hurting. Looking for that good in each experience will train your brain to do the same, even when it’s hard.
And finally I am safe, I am protected, and I am loved. This is the line that felt like a warm hug to me. This is the warm blanket when the nights are the hardest. You are safe to cry, to feel numb, to miss them like crazy. But also to know you are still so loved by the people around you and by something bigger too.
I think this prayer doesn’t take pain and grief away (nothing does that) but it keeps you from drowning in it. It gives you something steady to come back to when the waves hit.
I guess what it does for me is knowing that when I go through something hard, whatever it is, it gives me permission to feel the pain AND at the same time feel that without a doubt I’m going to be ok.
I hope you remember this prayer the next time you’re going through something hard, if you say it every morning, you’ll never forget it.
Share this with 3 people who might need a little lift, And honestly that’s probably anyone. I love you guys, Ill talk to you in a few days!
