Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 524 of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! Good to be with you! Thank you so much for listening and sharing and also giving me a 5 star review if you are loving the episodes. If you’ve been around a while we feel like old friends, if you’re new, we’re gonna be fast friends, I just know it.
Ok, Have you ever gone along to get along and you pretend you’re having a good time but you’re really not? We’ve all probably done that at least once, but some of us live that way. I used to but I don’t anymore. And I gotta tell you, there’s a better way, I promise. I can remember someone told me something and I love this person very dearly and I don’t hold this against them but they told me that I do what I want to do instead of doing what the family does, the context was around religion. They weren’t being mean they were stating what they saw. I asked this person if they would rather me be unhappily doing what the family wanted or happily doing what I wanted. They didn’t really know how to answer that. To be fair it’s a gotcha question. I didnt mean for it to be but those were the options. My inner guidance system, my inner authority, had me going in a different direction regarding religion than my family. Any other option than following my own heart would have me pretending to be something Im not, pretending to be happy when Im not. It’s a big deal. I stood to lose a lot to follow my own path and I did it anyway. I trusted my own authority. It wasn’t easy and if you’ve listened for a while you know there are still things that are tough. But it really does beg the question.
If you did what you wanted to do regardless of what someone else wanted you to do what would you do?
Isn’t that an interesting question deep down every single one of us has an inner guidance system that is guiding us, not everybody follows it when you do follow it you feel amazing eventually, maybe there’s some pain at first but eventually when you do what’s right in your heart you have a powerful sense that you matter and that you followed your heart and that feels really really good but when you don’t follow it, you feel a tug like something’s wrong. Something’s off. When you don’t follow it, You feel moments of feeling depressed held back push down, unseen irrelevant. And eventually you lose contact with that inner guidance system altogether because it’s just too hard to feel so bad so you pretend that you don’t feel bad. You pretend that you like them when you don’t. You pretend you want that when you don’t. You pretend you are happy when you’re not. You put on a happy face but at the end of the day when you’re alone in the tub after a long day, you dream about a life that could be if only you had the courage to follow it.
I read something about listening to your inner authority this week. It was a post on X by “Reads with Ravi” give him a follow if you want to be inspired. But in this post he said “Moments of depression are a call to listen again to your inner authority.
You weren’t put here to follow someone else’s path. Your opinions and preferences matter just as much as anyone else else’s.
But maybe check that your preferences are really yours. Maybe check that your opinions are really yours. We are born a free spirit and programmed daily by the people and information around us. That’s why we have to spend a little time getting quiet and being introspective. We have to find out what is is we think. I have to dig deep to know what I think and you have to do the same. I mean what excites you? What inspires you? Who do you really enjoy being around? What foods do you really like. What are your thoughts about things deep down, are they different from how you were taught about it? Yeah you get to decide for yourself. I remember at one point sitting at my parents church thinking “wow I don’t agree with that at all”. And I don’t feel good being here so why am I here? The answer was pretty normal, it was because it’s what everyone around me wanted. So was I going to buck the system? Could I? Yes and yes. On my own authority. And you can do the same. No one else will do it for you.
You can create a life you love or you can end the day in tub of regret dreaming about one. I know which one I want. And deep down your inner authority does too, but will you have the courage to follow it? I don’t know. I hope so.
My challenge for you today is to be honest about where you are in this life. Are you on a path that excites you and feels right for you deep in your gut or are you pretending because you’re on the wrong path and don’t know how to get off or you’ve followed someone else’s path and even though it feels good to them, it doesn’t feel good to you? The truth is everyone at some point has to make a decision like that and often times the decision you make isn’t gonna make other people happy, it’s not your job to make them happy, its your job to make YOU happy. If a decision is right for you and you know it’s right for you, it is your job to make it. No-one else can do it for you. Let’s stop pretending and start living. Share this with 3 people who
