Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 591 of The Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! Im so happy to be with you. Thanks for hanging out, I sometimes imagine you’re sitting having your coffee with your feet tucked under you, or maybe you’re on your daily walk or even driving along in your car….whatever it is, I am glad you’re here. Because it means you are working towards being your best self and it’s good to surround ourselves with people that are doing that because it lifts us up and sometimes we need that..humans are social animals. We thrive being with people who are playing on a higher frequency, but we aren’t always gonna be on that higher frequency ourselves, and that is ok because we are humans, we aren’t going to be perfect.
As humans, we have to give each other grace because we’re evolving and growing and adapting as we go along. And along with that—and I talk about this a lot—we’re included in that. We have to give ourselves grace too. We tend to beat ourselves up, thinking we should be perfect, that we should think perfectly, that we should never have a bad thought about someone else or even think about doing something vindictive. I mean, who hasn’t been there? It’s been on my mind this week, I will tell you why (another not so flattering story about myself, but also how I overcame it) but this is why we have to not only give others grace but also give it to ourselves. Because we are all evolving and growing which is important in us being our best most wildly successful self. Growing so that we begin to notice our thoughts but we stop letting them run the show. We decide consciously what we are and are not going to put out there. Having not so pure thoughts is human but it’s our lower frequency aspect, not acting on them is human consciousness acting from our higher frequency. Here’s my real life example…
My family is all getting together—my whole immediate family, which means all my siblings and my parents. We’re gathering with other family members too. And this is all of us, excluding my sister, who I’ve talked about many times on this podcast. She won’t have anything to do with the majority of our family because we’re not in her religion any longer. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s her path, and I’ve had to learn to respect that, even when it stings.
So, when we have these family get-togethers and she’s not there, I’ve had thoughts to myself of taking the pictures that we snap—where we’re all together, laughing, hugging, just happily connected—and sending them to her. I thought to myself, yeah, I’m gonna do that. I could just act like it’s innocent, say something like, “Oh, missing you” or “Wish you were here,” and make it seem like it’s something sweet. But deep down, my intention isn’t that. It’s not a sweet intention at all. It’s trying to shame her or make her feel bad or make her feel isolated. It doesn’t come from a place of good. So, ultimately, I never send those pictures to her because I know my intention is wrong. I know my intention isn’t from a pure place, so I don’t act on it. The act of sending it might seem harmless or maybe even loving on the surface, but the intention behind it matters. It matters in terms of what you’re putting out into the universe.
This brings me to a bigger point: only do things from pure intentions. We may have thoughts that aren’t pure—and that’s okay, that’s human—but we can acknowledge them and then choose to act purely. It’s like hitting pause on that impulse and asking yourself, “What’s really driving this? Is it love, or is it something else?” In my case, it was something else—maybe a mix of hurt and resentment bubbling up from a deeper place. But by noticing it, I could let it go without spreading that energy.
Now, let’s talk about why this matters on a deeper level. I mentioned higher frequency versus lower frequency, because this concept has transformed how I approach my thoughts and actions. If you’ve been listening for a while, you know I pull from lots of different ideas usually Wayne Dyer, Tony Robbins, Esther Hicks—stuff like the law of attraction or vibrational living. Basically, everything we do, say, or even think carries a frequency, like a vibe or an energy wave. Higher frequency stuff is aligned with love, gratitude, compassion, joy—those pure intentions I was just talking about. It feels light, expansive, and it attracts more of the same into your life. Lower frequency, on the other hand, is rooted in fear, anger, shame, jealousy. It’s heavy, constricting, and it pulls in more negativity.
Think about it like this: if I had sent those pictures to my sister with that shady intention, I’d be operating from a lower frequency. Even if no one else knew, I’d know, and that energy would linger. It might make me feel momentarily satisfied, like I “got back” at her for the distance she’s created, but in the long run? It would lower my own vibe, maybe even invite more family drama or inner turmoil. Instead, by choosing not to act, I’m shifting to a higher frequency. I’m choosing grace—for her, for the situation, and for myself. And that opens up space for healing, maybe even reconciliation down the line, who knows?
I’ve seen this play out in so many areas of my own life. Take relationships, for example. How many times have you wanted to fire off a snarky text to an ex or a friend who let you down? That thought pops up—bam, lower frequency. But if you notice it, breathe through it, and respond (or not respond) from a place of understanding, you’re elevating everything. Or at work—maybe you’re tempted to gossip about a coworker to feel better about your own frustrations. Acknowledge the thought, but act purely: focus on your own growth instead. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about progress.
And let’s not forget self-grace in all this. We beat ourselves up so much for having those “bad” thoughts in the first place. I used to do that constantly—judge myself for even considering sending those photos. But now? I see it as a signal. It’s my mind’s way of processing hurt, and that’s valid. The key is not letting it dictate my actions. Give yourself permission to be human, to evolve at your own pace.
Social media is a really good example of where we can fall into lower frequency very easily. Posting passive aggressive comments that could be taken either way. Maybe you are trying to make a point to someone but you don’t want to deal with it head on so you give your little backhanded comment. Or maybe you post amazing pictures or videos trying to make yourself feel better and maybe show that girl you went to school with what an amazing life you have compared to hers, because you know she sees everything you post. I used to post a lot. I started realizing that my intentions sometimes were for my ego to be validated and when it was I was on a high but when it wasn’t I would feel upset or confused. Now I try to check my intentions before I do most things. It’s an eye opener when you start realizing how often we work from our lower frequency if we aren’t careful. I sort of stopped posting all together on certain sites because I realized I needed to check myself more often than not. My little sister and I laughed so hard because I sent her a video of a guy that normally has road rage but he has been trying to be a better person so instead of cussing and yelling at people as he starts to do, he catches himself mid yelling and stops, checks himself and says “I forgive you, have a good day” He’s being funny but that matters! Every time you check yourself and decide to not gossip, or to forgive or to love anyway….That’s higher frequency in action—it’s contagious, and it changes things.
So Next time a thought arises that feels off—maybe road rage on your commute, or envy scrolling through Instagram—just notice it. Say to yourself, “Okay, there’s that thought. What’s the pure action here?” Maybe it’s taking a deep breath and sending good vibes instead. Or turning off your phone and going for a walk. Over time, this builds. Your default becomes higher frequency living, and trust me, the universe responds. Opportunities flow, relationships deepen, and you feel more aligned.
we’re all works in progress. Give grace—to others and yourself. Notice those impure thoughts, but choose pure actions. Aim for that higher frequency, and watch how it elevates your whole life. If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a positive hip check. I love you guys, I’ll talk to you in a few days!
