Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 646 of the wildly successful lifestyle podcast! I’m Heidi, and I’m really glad you’re here.
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Have you ever noticed that there are times where little things start to annoy you way more than they should—when we snap at people who don’t deserve it, or we let small frustrations steal our peace.
There could be something bigger going on, and it could be signaling something for you…., but what if we could catch it early and flip it around? Easier said than done, but a beautiful thing to at least try…And you know I’m always trying to be the best I can be, just like you are as well…but sometimes life happens and its not so easy….
A month or so ago, I was making the shift from audio-only to video episodes. I do all my own production and publishing, so there was a pretty steep learning curve. It literally took me hours and hours to figure out how to get my first video done and published on time.
I’d spent almost the whole day working on it, and then I couldn’t get it to publish on Spotify to save my life. Time was ticking because there was no way I was going to miss or be late on an episode. So I’m stressed, I’m on the phone with customer service, and this guy didn’t seem to know exactly what he was doing. I just wanted to do it the old way, the comfortable way, and he kept telling me it’s much better if I do it this new way.
I could feel my anxiety building the longer we talked. Right in the middle of all that, my accountant called—the one I’d been waiting on. She’s such a sweet person, but she had several questions for me, and I noticed, uncharacteristically, that I was getting annoyed with her. Listen, she’s awesome and she never annoys me. So I knew this was a problem on my end.
I took a pause and told myself, “Okay, you’ve got a lot going on right now. She is trying to help you. Breathe, answer her questions, and then go back to the podcast issue.” And that’s what I did. That phone call, once I calmed down, lasted about three minutes. She just needed a couple of answers to finish her work. Once we were done, I took a breath, jumped back into the podcast stuff, and low and behold, the last thing the customer service guy had me try—which wasn’t how I was used to doing it—worked. And as it turns out, it helped me tremendously moving forward by doing it that new way.
My point in telling you this—and I think I’ve surely talked about this before—is that when you have a lot going on, things that don’t usually annoy you can really get under your skin. And we can so easily blame someone else for our annoyance. Like I was doing with the poor customer service guy and then my sweet accountant—both of them literally trying to help me. I was frustrated, and that almost caused me to be a little rude to other people who had done absolutely nothing wrong.
Fortunately, I could feel it rising, so I took a deep breath and handled one thing at a time, knowing it was going to work out. And it did—it worked out even better than I thought.
I wondered though how many times in the past my annoyance with other people was really me having bigger things bothering me in my life or in my head.
This last week I saw a video with Dean Graziosi talking about people who get very easily annoyed and how those people have very little chance at being truly happy if they don’t change that pattern. And I agree with him. He said if you’re constantly getting upset because your friend didn’t invite you to the mall, or someone cuts you off in traffic, or you’re upset by that coworker who was being a little rude, then life is gonna be harder than it needs to be. It really doesn’t have to be that hard.
Because if you think about the times you’re easily annoyed, or maybe a little rude or short with someone, you more than likely had something going on that was a lot bigger than that moment. Kind of like what happened to me with the video publishing stress.
Here’s what I’ve noticed in my own life, and what a lot of us experience: When we’re already taxed—maybe I’ve been eating too much sugar and feeling a little off or bloated, or we’re carrying worry about something bigger—our patience shrinks. The little things feel overwhelming because our emotional tank is lower. It’s not that we’re bad people; we’re just human, and stress or overwhelm lowers our tolerance for frustration.
Dean’s bigger point hits home: When you’re obsessed with a meaningful mission—whether that’s building your business, deepening your relationships, or simply becoming the calmest, most grounded version of yourself—those tiny annoyances barely register. Your energy goes to what actually moves your life forward instead of leaking away on the noise. And it works both ways. Often times the people in our life that we run into that may seem a little off or maybe even rude, they are probably dealing with something you have no idea about.
I remember years ago I had a new client meeting with a young couple. They were a great couple, and it was our first consultation. I’d talked to them before and they were so fun and excited, and I was excited to meet them.
Well, I show up at their home, and when she opened the door, I could immediately tell something was off. During the consult, the husband sat on the sofa the whole time, almost despondent. She was all over the place, seemed nervous. In my mind I thought, “Ooh, I don’t know that I want to work with these people.” The meeting only lasted maybe 30 minutes, and I went on my way thinking, “Okay, well that didn’t go the way I thought it would. Those people are not nice at all.” I never got a call back, which I was actually relieved about at the time.
About a year later, I ran into her at the grocery store. I said hello and asked how they were doing, and she just immediately started crying. She said, “I just have to apologize to you.” The night before our meeting, she had miscarried their first baby. They were so upset they forgot all about our appointment. When I showed up at the door, that was the state they were in. She apologized profusely, and I of course was horrified for them. It explained everything—and then some.
Wow. You never know what people are going through. So when someone is short or rude, give them grace. There’s likely something else going on that has nothing to do with you.
That story has stayed with me as a beautiful reminder. And it ties right back to our own annoyance patterns. The next time you feel yourself getting irritated at the slightest thing..maybe ask yourself: “What else might be going on right now? Am I stressed or overwhelmed by something bigger? Have I been running on empty—maybe too much sugar, not enough rest, or worrying about something bigger?” Just naming it, without judgment, takes away some of its power.
Then, do what I did that day: Take a breath, handle one thing at a time, and choose to protect your peace. Redirect that energy toward something that actually lights you up or moves you forward.
The inspiring part? When we start catching these moments and responding with more awareness and grace—both for ourselves and for others—we create so much more room for peace and happiness and real connection. Life feels lighter. Opportunities and good people seem to show up more easily because we’re showing up as the calmer, more magnetic version of ourselves.
You’re not failing when little things annoy you. It’s often just information—a signal to check in, breathe, and realign with what matters most. And every time you choose peace over pettiness, you’re building the wildly successful lifestyle you deserve—one honest, compassionate moment at a time.
My challenge to you this week: When annoyance starts to bubble up, pause, breathe, and ask what else might be going on. Give yourself (and the person in front of you) a little grace. Notice how it feels to redirect that energy into grace or curiosity rather than frustration.
I’d love to hear your stories—drop me a note, leave a review, or share wherever you listen..
Choose peace this week, okay? I love you guys, I’m rooting for you and I’ll talk to you in a few days.
