First of all let me start by saying. Changing the world sounds like a big task. Guess what? It is. But I want you to think about it in a way that makes it seem doable. If every single person took a long hard look at themselves and worked on their mindset. Think about what that would do for the world! Each of us can affect change by working on our own mental strength. We can also affect change by being aware of what we allow to be ok when we are present.
I can remember a time that my husband and I were hanging out with acquaintances and one of them made a disparaging remark that we considered horribly inappropriate.
I could see my husband getting angry so I spoke up first because I was able to say something and not be angry. I basically said that he was an extremely educated man but the statement he made sounded ignorant and we know that not to be true. He was taken aback but realized that wasn’t ok. That’s the kind of thing we have to be ok with doing. Getting comfortable having uncomfortable conversations.
Just like being back in the gym working out! My body hasn’t felt this sore in a long time but it’s good because my muscles are growing! They are being recharged. Just like I feel my brain has been opening and expanding this week which I love. I love growing. I always say I love to learn. I hope to learn something new every single day. Growth and learning physically and mentally changes your world which changes THE world. We weren’t put on this earth to grind it out and then die. We were put on this earth to create, to grow, to expand and to love.
That is something else that changes the world. Being able to love one another. Another thing I like to say is that you can put me in a room with hundreds of different people and I can find something I love about each one. Truly. Have you ever thought about that? Being able to look at someone that you don’t know and wonder what it would be that you’d love about them? I think we often let others affect us and trust me I work on this every single day. Sometimes someone you’ve just met rubbed you the wrong way or maybe you grabbed an opinion from your head because of the way they were dressed or how they carried them-self. I was at a condo in Florida a few years back and Eric was sleeping so I thought oh I’ll go down to the pool while he naps and you could see the pool from our balcony I looked to see how crowded it was and I saw a big kind of gruff looking guy swimming and he had tattoos on his arms and I thought oh maybe I’ll wait. And then I caught myself and I said. You know what? That guy could be your brother. My brother is the sweetest most loving human being you’ll ever meet. He has tattoos and he can be a bit intimidating because he’s a big guy with tattoos. And I thought that’s someone’s brother, that’s someone’s dad or son and he is probably the most loving guy and here I am judging because he doesn’t fit my personal profile of someone that’s loving. I now have started playing a game with myself when I think about something like that. I think what could I love about that person? I imagine them bringing their mom flowers or pushing their baby in a swing or something that I would find endearing and I go with that. Obviously you always want to stay safe but be open to new experiences. It doesn’t mean you have to engage with that person but your thoughts can keep you prisoner. Your thoughts affect everything in your world. So try that little game and see if it changes your world. Next time you have a judgment based on appearance turn that into a what could I love about that person?
And look. I am a big believer that how you present yourself to the word is telling people how you want to be perceived. I still believe that but there’s a slight caveat I would like to add. We all have this built in perception of what we find beautiful , acceptable, lovable and just about any other label you can come up with. We have trained ideas of what that looks like. Someone from a different country, different culture, different background will have a very different idea of what those labels look like as well. Recognizing that the definition you have for lovable for beautiful will not be someone else’s definition but being open to seeing the beauty in everyone will certainly change your world.
Remember changing your world changes THE world and you have no idea the new experiences you’ll have and the new doors that will open when you are able to see that! Ok guys I hope you enjoyed this episode…
My Wednesday wisdom this week is an uncomfortable conversation that I feel needs to be had more. I hope you grow as much from it as I did. I love you all and will Talk to you in a few days!
