Hi guys! Welcome to the 17th episode of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast!
Wow! It’s the beginning of a new week full of new opportunities and possibilities.
I posted today on Instagram this phrase that I came to think about. You know those memes where they say Coffee $2, croissant, $4, conversation with a friend priceless. I always love those! Anyway I came up with my own.
Loving your friends: REWARDING
Loving your family: SATISFYING
Loving yourself: PRICELESS
So why do I say that? Loving our friends is so rewarding for them and for us. We don’t HAVE to love our friends. We all have our quirks and understanding and loving even though sometimes we have differences in opinion can be so rewarding especially the friendship is inspiring and fulfilling.
Loving our family can be hard sometimes but family is family and I say it’s satisfying because if we just love with no expectations and no judgment then it feels very satisfying. This doesn’t mean continuing to put yourself in a situation that is toxic just because they are family. But it does mean closing old wounds.
Loving yourself is priceless because it is the gift that keeps on giving.
Life is so interesting and being able to have a happy, stable, fulfilling life is possible for each and every one of us. Is that something you believe? I do and I believe that starts with loving ourself.
Now, I have talked about how relationships are one of the most rewarding gifts we have in life and that is so true but the most rewarding relationship we can have and the most beneficial one we can have is the one with ourself. Loving ourself also makes our external relationships better.
The reason I say loving yourself is so important is because if you love yourself you never go without love. How does this make our external relationships better? Because if you love yourself and care for yourself then you have more love to give. If you are full of love and gratefulness then you have an abundance to share with others.
If your first initial thought is “I’m not selfish. And that sounds selfish.” Think of it this way. Every time you fly somewhere you get that little safety presentation…they tell you very clearly that if the cabin loses pressurization, oxygen masks will drop down and put yours on before you assist others. This may go against what you’ve always been taught. may sound selfish especially if you have young children, but the reason they tell you this is because you are no help to anyone else if you pass out by not taking care of yourself first. Think about this in practical life. If you’re taking care of yourself and loving yourself you are able to be of help to elderly parents, neighbors, community, friends, and family.
So how do you know if you love yourself? Here are a few things I have found to be crucial for myself and also in studying what others have said regarding the topic:
You take care of yourself. You care about what you put in your body and how much exercise you get regularly. You get enough sleep. Putting your health first is important for self love. This can look very different for each of us.
2. You surround yourself with people that support you and want what is best for you. Limiting or filtering out toxic relationships
3. You are comfortable expressing yourself and giving your opinion
4. You turn negative self thought into positive self talk as soon as you recognize it and you practice daily gratitude for the things you do have
5. You don’t compare yourself to others, only to who you were yesterday
How are you doing in these areas? If you ranked yourself from a 1-10 on each of these points what would your average be? Having a daily practice of non negotiable self care is a habit wildly successful people have in common. What does your daily practice look like? Do you have a plan each day that starts in the morning with grateful journaling and meditation? This could mean getting up 20 minutes earlier than you are now. How about daily exercise? I know it’s harder right now than normal because of quarantine but that makes it even more important because you are more than likely locked in the house with another family and remember self love and self care spills over into your relationships. Either by being an example of what is possible or by having such a full cup that it overflows with love onto your family.
So many times we think that other people are the reason we don’t feel happy or loved. Other people can’t affect us if we don’t let them. I know that’s easier said than done. Knowing that and recognizing it is maybe your first step towards improving some relationships, mending some relationships, or even leaving some relationships. And that is all ok…so work every day on your relationship with yourself through your daily practice of self care and self love. This is a key ingredient to a wildly successful lifestyle!
Ok guys! I love you all! Thank you so much for listening. Talk to you in a few days!
Example daily practice:
6:00 am wake up/coffee positive podcast (wildly Successful lifestyle, Tony Robbins, Esther Hicks, Brooke Castillo, Tobi Fairley)
6:30 am grateful journal/meditation
7:00 am workout
Having an alarm on your phone mid day with your three words of how you want to show up (show notes has my website where you can get my free PDF that helps you choose your three words.)
Have an alarm for mid afternoon with a positive statement of mine is: In order to have what you’ve never had you have to do what you’ve never done.
