Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 215 of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! It’s good to be with you. I’m loving everything I’m doing right now, how about you? Are you loving what you’re doing right now? Are you on the right path and you know it? That feels good, doesn’t it? Sometimes, that path comes to a Y and you have to decide what to do or maybe you’re on a path you used to love but your passion isn’t there for it anymore. Wherever you are, this episode is for you. So, for me I LOVE LOVE LOVE doing this podcast and I love the projects I have in design and I’m really also loving my Coaching certification training.
My coaching class is going so well. I love every minute of it. Even the hard ones. That’s how I know I’m on the right track. I have no intention of quitting even though it’s hard. I also invested a lot of money to do it which tells me I was ready. But this last week it was super hard.
I felt disconnected from the group because I was gone for 2 weeks. Normally I would have joined the class wherever I am traveling but we were in the middle of the ocean on a sailboat with no WiFi around so it wasn’t possible.
Do you ever do that? Feel disconnected and just afraid that you have fallen too far behind? Maybe Covid got you off your game at the gym or maybe you were a stay at home mom joining the workforce again for the first time in 18 years. Whatever it is that you desire to do but feel like you’re too far behind…you’re not. You’re just having thoughts that you are. With my coaching certification. My small group has a practice session before the actual class starts and I had a hundred reasons why I was not going to go to that practice session but there was a part of me that knew the reason my brain was throwing out reasons not to do it was that I felt disconnected and I would feel uncomfortable and maybe the people in that group had a different agenda now that I’m not aware of. So many things but I joined anyway and it was the best thing I’ve done in a while because I was able to get coached on my feelings about it and then because I talked about it, they insisted I practice coaching right away to get back into the game. I also realized every other person comes to the table with their own fears and thoughts. It’s so normal and we tend to think we are the only ones that have them. And sometimes that causes us to hide out in our safe little cave. And some people thrive in that safe little cave, never leaving it but not me and not you either if you’re listening..I may not know you personally but I do know that much about you and let me just say…keep going. Keep stepping out of your comfort zone. Keep stepping out of your safe little cave because all the growth is out there. The next time you feel scared to do something because it’s out of your comfort zone just know that’s normal and we all feel it when we’re doing something new or maybe have been out of the game for a little while so you feel behind or uncomfortable. Jump right back in, you’ll be so glad you did, I promise. I also felt nervous about going back to my Toastmasters group but I knew it was only my fear that was keeping me from it, so I got right back into it and it was so exhilarating and it filled me with so much energy and connection because I love that group and I love that we have to offer each other…inspiration, growth, and connection. Yeah, it’s not easy and yeah I have to think on my feet but I want that, I need it. Just because I felt behind, it didn’t mean I was and guess what? I wasn’t, no-one cared they were just glad to see me back..no judgments.
And while I’m on the topic of not being behind. Just because someone else thinks you should be at a certain place by a certain age, does not make it right for you. You get to decide what’s the right timing for you and that’s it. Maybe someone thinks you should have kids by 30 or thinks you should have a certain income by 40 or whatever the expectations are, the ONLY thing that matters is you. What do YOU want? You’re perfect as you are, you know why I say that with such confidence? Because there is only one YOU in this universe. You’re the only one with your specific assets. And they are combined in a unique way. Yes someone may be richer or skinnier or smarter or farther along but that’s their journey. You have no idea what it took to get them there so never compare yourself and never beat yourself up because someone else is further along. Your life experience has created this version of you. I look back and I wouldn’t change anything, even the rough patches because I grew from them. It made me stronger. If you’re going through something right now..Hold your head up and let it make you stronger. Let it build that character you need for the next phase.
That next phase could be something you’ve been putting off. That business you wanted to start. That degree you’ve been thinking about getting. That weight loss you’ve been thinking about. It’s never too late to start something you really want to do. Just be sure you get clarity on exactly what you want. Clarity of your outcome will have you much more focused than if you aren’t sure. When you don’t have clarity, it’s super easy to get distracted. And the advertisers want you distracted. They want you stuck to your phone because it makes them money. But giving in to your distractions is not making you money, it’s not making you smarter, it’s not making you better. It’s keeping you right where you are. If you feel stuck, more than likely you’re going to want to distract yourself. Brendon Burchsrd gave an example this week of putting a puzzle together. When do you move the fastest? When do you feel the most invigorated? It’s when you can see the outcome. When you have clarity of what the puzzle is turning into and where each puzzle piece needs to go. When you first start a big puzzle it’s easy to get distracted because it’s hard. But man as soon as you get close and you can see the finish line you pick up speed. When you’re doing something hard or uncomfortable it’s easy to want to distract yourself. Fight that urge. Distraction is one of the biggest hurdles we all have, including me.
I’ve been realizing I have a clarity problem right now with my coaching. Do I want to do it one on one? Do I want to join a group? How is it going to look? How is my website set up going to look? So many questions. It’s hard and it’s confusing and I’m having to learn and grow and sometimes it’s easier to just get on social media to numb my feelings but that stops momentum. It isn’t adding anything. Make time for social media if you want but don’t allow yourself to use it as a buffer. We use it as a distraction, just like we use food, or alcohol.
So I know I have to get clarity on what I want right now. This may change but for right now, what do I want? Then I can work towards that goal and then pivot if I need to. You don’t have to know everything, you just need to know what the outcome is you want right now and move towards that. If you’re passionate about it and you LOVE it, more than likely you’re on the right track…regardless of your thoughts about how long it’s taking, how far behind you are, how you should have started years ago, none of that matters. All that matters is right now and where you’re heading.
My challenge to you this week is to step out of your comfort zone at least one time. Truly out of your comfort zone. Not been going to the gym for a while? GO. Do a fitness class. Been wanting to join a club or a church or a new hobby? Just do it. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be one of the scariest things you do but also one of the most rewarding things you do….Get the big picture of your puzzle and then put down that first piece. You’ll want to keep going if you get the momentum headed in that direction. Share this with at least 3 people and hop on Apple podcast and give me a review. It helps a lot!
I love you guys, I’ll talk to you in a few days!
