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Have you ever heard someone maybe a historian or someone who studies human nature say “the only way to bring the country together is we have to have something big happen like a war”
Like when 9/11 happened our country came together in a big way because we realized what’s important, what really matters and for a moment we through away our built in prejudices and just loved. It didn’t matter your political party, your race, your religion, or where you lived in the country. We were all Americans and we had been attacked. Life got REAL real fast. And when life gets REAL the facades are dropped, the curtains are opened, the hard outer shell is cracked and there we are just raw, true, authentic emotion.
Who hasn’t felt that?
When crisis happen it can cut pretty deep. It can be scary, and shocking, it can make us reevaluate what am I doing? What in the world really matters? But eventually we go back to that identity we created. After 9:11 things gradually calmed down and we started living in our new normal, we slowly built the facades back up, we eased the curtains closed, we reinforced that hard shell and went back to living life slowly separating ourselves from each other in a way.
Now this kind of thing happens on a small scale in communities that have tragedy. Even one step further… families that go through tragedy. It’s a time when people come together and the little quarrels, the differences they don’t matter for those brief moments we allow ourselves raw, true authentic emotion. Because deep down that’s who we are. Deep down we want connection, we want authenticity, we want realness not this facade that religion puts up, not this divide that politics puts up, not this shell that people put up.
Your Raw true authentic self doesn’t care what religion people are, it doesn’t care what political party people affiliate with, it doesn’t care what color people are or where they’re from. It just wants to love. All you have to do is look at little kids to know that. They don’t care until they are conditioned to care.
In life a lot of times we question what is real and what’s a facade. It is getting harder and harder to tell what’s real anymore with social media and the opinion crusades, which some people also call the news.
But if you want to know what’s authentic. Look at how you feel when life gets real. Look at what you do when life gets real. What really matters. You’re not worried about what other people think you’re not worried about social media you’re not worried about things that don’t really matter. We go back to family. We LOVE our friends. For a few glorious moments we drop the judgements. We drop the petty arguments, we drop the isolation and we come together.
That’s what’s real.
My trainer Kevin and I were working out recently and he asked me how it went when I was with all of my family, he knows kind of the backstory. I told him it was a little confusing because my sister that had isolated us due to religion acted like nothing ever was wrong, like she was so happy we were all together and for a few glorious days even in the face of tragedy it was like we were just family and that was all that mattered. I told him it was confusing and he said something to me that blew my mind and actually spurred this episode, he said that’s because when life gets real people forget about having to keep up a certain facade. They forget about the people that they think are judging them and they just go back to who they are at their core. That’s what’s true, it’s not confusing. When your sister was being real, she’s loving, the confusion comes when she’s behind the facade. I’ve thought about that over and over. I don’t know what’s going to happen moving forward for our family, I don’t even want to predict it. I just know at our core we love each other and when life gets real all the facades are dropped. It’s not confusing, it’s human nature. We want to connect.
Now. If you’re listening to this. You have these tools or you are at least working on being the best most Wildly Successful version of you that’s possible, which means never ending growth and improvement. Not everyone you come across has that or even wants that. So you won’t be able to control how the story ends. Not even for your own family. I know that personally. But I also know that I can be the change I want to see. I can love unconditionally. I can drop my own judgements, I can be me in a very true and authentic way and what’s meant to be in my life will be there and what’s won’t will drop off and it doesn’t need to take a bomb or a plane crashing into a tower or a tragic death for that to happen. I can be that right now and so can you.
True personal power comes from being authentically you regardless of your circumstances.
For me that means I’m an extremely strong, fun and unconditionally loving woman. That’s how I’m gonna show up. With family, with friends, with everything I do. It won’t always be easy and it won’t always be perfect but that’s gonna be my set point. And life doesn’t have to get REAL for me to show up that way.
My challenge to you today is to think about who you are, the real you. The authentic one. The one behind the curtain, the one without the facade. The one that shows up when life gets REAL. Who is the True, raw, authentic YOU? That person will show you the way whether life is getting REAL or it’s just a regular Tuesday and it will NOT be confusing. I love you guys. I’ll talk to you in a few days.
