Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 644 of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle. I’m Heidi, And Im so happy your’e here! Todays episode is pretty raw, it’s a really honest conversation— the kind I usually have in my journal or with my husband Eric over coffee, I hope in some way you can relate but also that it helps you on your journey too.
Last week, I noticed this low-level agitation and background anxiety creeping in. It felt familiar but I hadn’t felt it strongly in a while. The thought that kept looping was: I need to be doing MORE. More promoting of the podcast. More work on my design guide. More videos. More growth. More, more, more.
Nothing felt good enough all of a sudden. And I thought… why now? I have a life I could only have dreamed of. A wonderful, thoughtful, successful husband who loves me deeply. I’m healthy and fit. We have a beautiful home. We travel to fabulous places. We have great friends and family. Time to exercise, create, and just be. So why this never-ending feeling like there’s a hole that needs filling with more success, more proof, more results?
I sat down and journaled it all out — pages of raw honesty. Then I shared it with Grok (yes, that’s AI) and asked it to channel three voices that have shaped me at different times: Wayne Dyer, Tony Robbins, and Esther Hicks (Abraham). What came back was so helpful that I knew I had to turn this into an episode. Because if I’m wrestling with this, I bet many of you are too.
Let’s start with what Wayne Dyer brought through so gently. That “never-ending hole” isn’t a flaw in me — or in you. It’s the ego’s old story trying to fill itself with external proof. Self-worth comes from one thing only: thinking that you are worthy. When you decide you are worthy — right now, exactly as you are — the things you look at begin to change. Your beautiful life, your creative projects, even your podcast… they start to reflect that quiet inner knowing instead of feeling like they’re never enough.
Tony Robbins came in with that fired-up clarity I love. He said this anxious “I need to do more” feeling is the #1 universal fear most high-achievers carry: “I’m not enough.” It drives the pattern where success arrives… and instead of celebrating, we move the goalposts. For me, that looked like “not enough listeners,” “not enough monetization yet,” or “my high-tech setup should mean bigger results by now.”
He helped me name the limiting belief: “My worth is tied to external results from the podcast.” And flip it to a new empowering story: “I am enough. My podcast is a passion that lights me up and has already given me massive personal growth for nearly six years. Anything beyond that is a bonus.”
Tony’s action-oriented nudge was gold: Take only action that feels aligned, not forced. Drop the “shoulds.” (Side note — my friend Brooke Castillo always says we “should all over ourselves,” and it really does cause problems!) Raise your standards for how you talk to yourself. No more “I’m confused about what I’m supposed to be doing.” Decide: I get to enjoy this journey without the constant chase.
Then Esther Hicks / Abraham brought the vibrational truth that felt like a deep exhale. That “hole” or anxious pull is your Emotional Guidance System letting you know where your vibration sits relative to your Inner Being. The gap between “not enough success yet” and the Vortex that already has everything lined up for you. The more I focused on lack — not enough listeners, need to prove something, need to monetize — the more the Law of Attraction brought evidence of that feeling.
Nothing is more important than feeling good first. For months I’d been in flow with the podcast — just enjoying creating, no pressure on results — and it felt amazing. Then I added video, expectations rose, and suddenly I was worrying: What if the numbers go back down? What if they don’t stay? What if it stops growing?
That’s when I realized: Nothing will ever be good enough if my metrics are based purely on external things.
I’m a striver by nature. I love to work. I love the results from consistent workouts. I love new experiences. My mom used to say I’d never let the grass grow under my feet. But I’ve also learned that the journey to the goal is usually far more fulfilling than actually attaining it.
That truth hit even harder when I listened to the recent FoundMyFitness episode with Dr. Arthur Brooks — the happiness expert from Harvard. He talked about the “striver’s curse.” Our neurobiology is wired for progress, not arrival. Dopamine rewards the pursuit, the striving, the chase. Once you reach the goal, the brain resets and the target moves. Satisfaction is fleeting if you’re always looking for the next hit of “more.”
He shared something wild that stuck with me: Most Olympic medal winners experience clinical depression after winning. They’ve trained their whole lives for that moment, and when it comes… “What now?” The satisfaction they expected doesn’t last because the journey — the daily struggle, the growth, the meaning — was actually what fed them. Arrival leaves a void if you haven’t built the deeper habits of happiness.
Dr. Brooks breaks happiness into three “macronutrients”: enjoyment (shared pleasures with people), satisfaction (earned through struggle and overcoming hard things), and meaning (using your life for something bigger than yourself). Chasing endless external success without these leaves high achievers feeling profoundly empty, even when, on paper, they have it all.
That landed so personally. My little wobble last week? It was the striver’s curse showing up. I let external metrics (listeners, potential monetization, a company that ghosted our call) borrow the microphone in my head. I even rebooked the call thinking it was on my end — classic “I need to prove I’m worthy” move. But when I got quiet, I realized it wasn’t aligned. I canceled it, felt instant relief, and redirected my energy back to what feels good: finishing a fun section of my sketch course and recording this honest episode.
My husband Eric related so much when I shared all this. As a pilot pushing 60, he still gets a little anxious flying into new countries. His brain tries to keep him comfortable, whispering “why push yourself?” But when he leans in anyway, he remembers how fun and alive it feels afterward. Our brains do work angles to stay in the comfort zone. The question is: Is this discomfort a growth stretch that lights me up underneath the nerves… or am I forcing something that drains me?
Here’s what I’ve been practicing since that journal session,
1. Catch the pattern early. When “not enough” starts whispering, pause and name it. Is this ego needing proof, or is this inspired expansion?
2. Decide your worth first. Like Wayne said — you are worthy because you decide you are. List the abundance that already exists (your relationships, health, home, freedom) and let appreciation raise your vibration.
3. Choose aligned action only. Like Tony teaches, drop the shoulds. Do what lights you up — even if it’s “just” the fun part of a creative project or an honest conversation like this one.
4. Feel good first. Abraham reminds us that contentment isn’t settling — it’s alignment. When you’re in flow and appreciation, the right opportunities, growth, and people find you without the grind.
5. Build the real macronutrients of happiness. Enjoy time with people (I had the best lunch with a friend while Eric was traveling — pure medicine). Earn satisfaction through meaningful struggle (keep showing up for the things you love, even when they’re hard). Create meaning by expressing yourself authentically — whether that’s through your work, your family, or sharing your real journey like we’re doing right now.
The moral I keep coming back to is simple but profound:
It’s not about having more.
It’s about wanting less — and appreciating more.
So to answer your question the question in the title “Will it Ever be good enough?” No, it won’t.
And that’s exactly why we always hear the advice to enjoy the journey. The striver in us is wired for progress, not arrival. The dopamine hit comes from the pursuit, the growth, the daily showing up-not from finally checking the box. Olympic champions often feel it most acutely: they reach the pinnacle they trained their whole lives for and then…what now? The satisfaction fades because the real nourishment was in the struggle and the meaning along the way. I wonder if we will actually listen this time.
I’m committing to it by enjoying the journey again, sketching for pure fun, podcasting from the heart with no pressure on numbers, laughing over lunch with friends, loving my husband and our beautiful life exactly as it is right now. No more moving the goal posts. No more “not enough”. One of my favorite yoga insturctors always ends her class with you are loved and you are enough and I feel touched every single time she says it.
So if you’ve ever felt like no matter what you achieve, it’s never quite enough… you’re not broken. You’re human. And you’re not alone. The wildly successful lifestyle isn’t measured by metrics that can always be moved. It’s measured by how good you feel in your own skin, how present you are with the people you love, and how much joy you let yourself experience along the way.
If this resonated, I’d love to hear your stories. Drop a review, send me a message, or share where “not enough” shows up for you. Together, we can remind each other that we are already enough.
Until next time, keep choosing what feels good, and trust that life really is working in your favor.
I love you guys, I’ll talk to you in a few days!
