So that title could lead anywhere couldn’t it? I love creating the titles for each blog. I want to say something that will catch your attention and I hope this did today. Where I’m headed with it though is being real. I used to have this human tendency and still struggle with it at times, to think I’m the only one. I’m the only one that would buy a pack of cookie dough and eat half of it, I’m the only one that because I worked out decided I could eat a bowl of chips and salsa and drink 2 margaritas. I’m the only one that spends 3 hours on TikTok without being aware of it. I could keep going but I like to keep these short and sweet and nobody wants to air all their dirty laundry right???
But see that’s just it. The reason I thought I was the only one? Because for the most part we don’t want to talk about the things we do that make us disgusted with ourselves. That’s a strong word and I use it carefully and with love for me and for you because that’s exactly how it can feel. And I have come a long way with good habits but it isn’t something that one day you just magically aren’t going to have any bad habits or thoughts or feelings. I still have to fight my Twitter habit. The other day, I had so much I needed to do and here I was hitting refresh on Twitter to distract myself from thinking about all the things I had to do. As soon as I recognized that I was doing it, I had the same feeling I used to have when I would eat a bag of those white powdered donuts. I asked myself why can’t I stop? Why is it so hard to be disciplined all the time? Am I the only one?
I’ve created really really good habits for myself and I still have to continue to protect myself from myself. You see, we all have this magnificent thing in our head called a brain. It controls everything. The part of your brain that you have to watch is your primitive brain, that’s the one that wants instant gratification…the front of your brain, the neo cortex will be the one that stops you, that tells you that isn’t good for you and we aren’t going to do that. We all have that same brain. We just have to train it the same way we have to train our body if we want it to be fit and healthy. It is possible to do it, you just have to want it more than you want the thing.
And guess what? If you stop exercising your muscles get weaker and your body gets lethargic. The same thing goes for your brain. You see. You Aren’t the only one with that tendency you have. You aren’t the only one that overeats in your car so no one sees you or spends 3 hours on your phone with your distraction of choice, or fantasizes about someone that you shouldn’t be fantasizing about, You aren’t the only one staying in a bad relationship because you’re afraid to be alone, or whatever it is you struggle with, you aren’t the only one!
BUT YOU ARE the only one that is going to save yourself. You are it. You are the only one that will delete TikTok from your phone completely so it isn’t an option. You are the only one that will finally decide enough. I’ve had enough and today is the day I’m going to commit. Today is the day I’m going to hire the trainer, work with the mindset coach. Today is the day I’m going to block that website so I can’t get on it. Block that person from my phone today is the day I’m going to tell my primitive brain that I’m in charge. I know who I am at my core and I’m not accepting anything less anymore.
If you struggle with knowing who you are at your core go to my website and download the free tool I’ve created for a fun easy first step to clarity and to help you decide and remind yourself who you are at your core.
Sometimes we think something or someone is going to knock on the door and say hello, I’m here to fix your problems and all will be well or that something is going to magically appear and save me. I have good news for you and if you’re listening to this it is your wake up call and I’m here to tell you right now that person, that white knight is YOU. You are the one. The only one. I love you guys and I’ll talk to you in a few days.
