Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 284 of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! I’m back after a wonderful weekend of hiking and nature and family, such a fun time and the fall colors were beautiful! I did a little video of them on my instagram at theheididawson. I recognized though that I so LOVE being with my mom and dad and my older sister and Eric and we just enjoyed the weekend so much. If you’ve been listening a while, you know some of the ways Ive struggled with family and when I realized through coaching that so much of it was me holding myself back over fear of rejection, once I realized that I have been reaching out and it is so true. I was holding myself back and because of coaching, I no longer do that, that’s why I love coaching so much. It helps you see where you’re holding yourself back. Because we all do.
That title of this episode, you don’t get what you want in life, you get what you expect. What do you think about that? There’s a big mind shift between expecting something good to happen verses praying something doesn’t go wrong. There’s a big energy difference between those two and when I say energy what I mean is your attitude and your mindset… from here on out when I say energy that’s what Im talking about your attitude and your mindset. And everyone can feel the difference
Do you expect for this new diet to work or do you just hope you get past the first day?
Do you expect for this new business to flourish or are you just hoping it doesn’t flop?
Do you expect a fabulous relationship or do you think all the good ones are taken?
This applies to anything you are trying to do in your life. Business, your health, your drinking, It could be applied to your relationships anything. Any area of your life where you want something to be different but aren’t sure how to make that happen so you just keep settling for what is even though you don’t like it. And the reason they stay the same is because you come from the energy of it probably isn’t going to work anyway. Or With my luck it won’t happen.
If I didn’t have bad luck I’d have no luck at all or Nothing good ever happens to me.
I think we have this epidemic of settling for less than we want because we have settled for so much mediocrity in life that anything outside of that is foreign.
Anything outside of mediocrity or the norm is what happens to other people, not you, and it happens for them because they are lucky or more talented or have more money. But what if that isn’t the case? What if they just expected for things to work out so much that they did the hard things, they never gave up? They showed up from the energy of “this time it’s different, Im going all in and failure isn’t an option.”
How would you show up if you thought that way? How would you show up if you knew you’re dream partner was out there looking for you, and you never know when he or she will show up so you better be ready? How would you dress? How would you treat yourself so that you are in the best shape of your life for that dream partner? Would you be drowning your sorrows in alcohol and donuts because you’re so sad about being single? Would you be wearing sweat pants and t shirts going out? No way! You would be working your butt off to look and feel the best you possibly can, you’d be getting dressed up every day. How can you show up in that energy? That’s the energy of someone that expects for good things to happen. Are you living from that energy?
How would you show up at your current job that maybe you hate if you KNEW this was the stepping stone you needed to be ready for that job you love? Maybe you hate it because you see it as permanent… If you show up in the energy of “I hate my job and I don’t think there’s anything better for me or Im scared to change or Im going to be miserable forever” you may want to change but you wont because you aren’t expecting something good to come from it. you aren’t showing up in the energy of this job is a step in my journey and I am going to kill it here, Im going to be the best I can be here so that Im ready when I see that new opportunity” My baby sister put her time in working her butt off at Enterprise rental company KNOWING that was where they feed medical device jobs because of the training and the hard work ethic that Enterprise instills she knew a better job was coming. She was not happy working 10 hour days 6 days a week, solid working but she did it and gave it her ALL because she expected something good to come from it. She knew that wasn’t where her career would end, it was just the start. How can you show up in that energy?
And look things stay the same because we tell ourselves these subtle societal lies like it’s too late, Im too old, all the good ones are gone, my family is poor which means I will be too. These are societal limitations, they’re not real. H Maybe your current life is just like the life of every single person you know plus or minus a kid or two, plus or minus a few hundred dollars, plus or minus a vice. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I grew up in a strict religion where we weren’t allowed to go to college, neither of my parents have a college degree, noone I was able to associate with went to college but I expected more for myself…at 32, I got a 4 year degree in interior design. I expected it, did the hard stuff, fought the thought demons and didn’t allow myself to quit when things got super hard, all because I expected more from myself.
So yeah, that title: you don’t get what you want from life, you get what you expect….there’s a lot of things Ive wanted that I don’t have but when I expect something to happen and I live from that energy, I don’t sit around and hope someone offers it up on a platter I go for it and maybe it comes in a different form from exactly what I expected, maybe and a lot of times it’s much much better.
There’s a world of difference between wanting something to happen and expecting it to happen. If you want to accomplish something, you have to expect it of yourself.
My challenge to you today is to ask yourself “How am I showing up?” Am I showing up in the laid back energy of wanting and wishing or am I showing up in the energetic excited energy of expectation, of knowing something good is going to happen? Deep down, you know the answer, and when you’re honest with yourself, you’ll know the work you need to do.
Im here to help, share this with 3 people that you love and want to inspire today…. I love you guys, I’ll talk to you in a few days.
