Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 402 of the wildly successful lifestyle podcast! You guys are so awesome for always being here…for always showing up and sharing the episodes. I appreciate you and I thank you.
Eric sent me a podcast this week. Before I finish that, I want to say I hope you and your partner encourage each other to be better. Even if you’re both great keep getting greater. And if that’s not your go to plan with your partner where you are encouraging the other to always be better, why not?. the best way to be supportive is by encouraging others to be their best selves. Not by you constantly lifting them, that creates dependency, you want to encourage them to constantly be their best. There’s a million ways you can to this, if they are trying to eat healthy, you only keep healthy food around, if they are trying to get to the gym, you remind them to lay out their clothes, you send them good books to read you send them encouraging podcasts…anything that encourages them to be their best. Ok. So Eric and I both are constantly working on being the best version of us. Sometimes just when I need it the most he will send me a great podcast to listen to. He did that this week.
He loves school of greatness with Lewis house, I do too but I have others I love too so sometimes that one gets by me. The episode he sent me was with Joe Dispenza.
In that podcast Dr. Dispenza asked a question and he wanted his listeners to ask that question of themselves and it is such a powerful question it’s one I want to remember ask myself 20 times a day because it isn’t innate. The questions is: is this is this loving to me? Think about that question is this loving to me, are the things and the people I allow in my life loving to me? is this food that I’m eating loving to me is my environment I’ve created in my home, loving to me, all of these things anything in your life, do they feel loving to you? How do we make decisions from that place? Things would look a lot different I bet. Easier said than done I know but I can tell you from experience so recently I talked about on an episode where I was really pretty upset with myself because my weight was going up a little bit. I had maintained for the last several years and I noticed recently that the scale was going up just a little bit and I thought OK, for a minute I let it get me. I let it get me down and then I realize the reason why I’m letting it get me down because I’m not showing up for myself and I know it it’s because I worry I’ll go back to my old habits, It matters so much to me and my health mentally and physically so how did I let it get off track? I worry…Am I going to go back to the old me? But guess what, That old me no longer exists. I decided a long time ago that’s not how I want to live. So, I just got off track a bit and gradually let myself eat a little more sugar, drink a little more alcohol, I love sugar but it doesn’t love me back so is that loving to me to eat it? No it’s not. In order to show up for myself I just reminded myself I’m not that girl anymore who overeats sugar or over drinks alcohol. That girl no longer exists. I just have to get back on track which I did immediately And you have to do the same. You may have different areas where you have to work to show up for yourself. think about it if you have a friendship and it’s one-sided or you leave that friend feeling bad about yourself, Are you showing up for yourself, what if you’re constantly beating yourself up in your head for the mistakes in your past, are you showing up for yourself by doing that? Is that loving to yourself? everything we do is because we think we will feel a certain way because of doing it. And you might say, hey I do think it’s loving to eat sugar and alcohol because I deserve it or I need it. But how are you gonna feel about it the next morning? No one ever regrets not drinking. No one ever regrets not over eating sugar. But you’re the only one that can show up for you in a way that makes you walk a little taller, feel a little more confident, be a little more self assured. Everything in our environment matters as to how we ultimately feel. I was talking to my big sister and she’s really enjoying making her pottery and she was saying how nice it was having her new speaker down in her pottery barn because she plays frank sinatra radio and she says sometimes she’s dancing while she’s making her pottery because the music makes her feel so good. I laughed and I told her About this moment where we had friends over for dinner and this this couple. I love them so much they’re beautiful souls. Now, she’s pretty fancy. I mean every time we go to dinner at their house it’s the most beautiful table setting I’ve ever seen and she really is an example of someone who exudes self-worth and I love that about her so they were coming to dinner and I’ve started this practice of listening to classical music all day just in the background and it is so interesting how it affects me. when our friends got to our house for dinner, I had the table set so beautifully and I normally I set a table and it’s pretty but not like this table, I really took a lot of time so they got to the house, she she said oh my goodness your table is so gorgeous I don’t think I’ve ever been here when your table has been set so beautifully and it was like a Tuesday or Wednesday. so I said well I had my beautiful friends coming over but on top of that I’m listening to classical music every day and because I’m listening to classical music it makes me feel fancy and makes me want my house to feel a certain way and look a certain way which gave us all a good laugh, but it got me really thinking man, everything we do subliminally tells us whether we’re worthy or not, even the music we listen to.
This podcast is loving to me. Listening to this podcast is hopefully loving to you! But it has helped me grow so much. At first I worried that I wouldn’t be consistent because I tend to be a bit fickle with things but I feel like more than anything I’m showing up for myself and honoring the commitment I made to myself to do this and it doesn’t feel like work, it feels like a very loving thing to do for me but also anyone else that’s listening because we are all growing our mindset together. I thought I was doing it to really help other people but I didn’t realize I’m the one who probably benefits the most. I didn’t realize how much of my life I spent Trying to make everyone else ok or please everyone else that I sort of put my feelings last which told me I wasn’t worthy of my own attention and I think now that the universe sort of put this podcast in my heart as a way for me to show up for myself and along the way I’m helping you show up for yourself so that’s the cherry on top, I believe a lot of you listening are probably helpers too, you probably maybe you want to save the world too, always trying to make the people around you happy, but the biggest thing I can say right now is the number one person that you can help is yourself when you show up for yourself You become a powerful force in the presence of anyone else. You showing up for yourself not only makes you feel unstoppable but it also gives other people permission to show up for themselves too.
If you’re a helper, You showing up for yourself will change the lives of the people you touch simply by giving them the permission to do the same.
You want to know if you’re showing up for yourself or not? Look at your life, is the future exciting? look at your health, is your body and mind getting better every day? look at your relationships. Are they loving to you in a way that brings you joy? That’s how you’ll know if you’re showing up for yourself.
My challenge to you today is eat the foods that love you back love the people that love you back show yourself your worthiness by only doing the things that are loving to you. That is how you show up for yourself! I love you guys, I’ll talk to you in a few days!
