Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 553 of The Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! What’s going on out there? I feel an excitement and an optimism about life that I haven’t felt in a long time. I hope you feel at least a little of that same optimism! I know it can be hard when you feel like you are in the middle of what feels like the rat race and there are always going to be moments like that throughout life. And sometimes we make it ten times worse by falling into the trap of constantly chasing perfection. Most of us have an area, maybe several areas where we just can’t seem to get enough, or nothing is ever good enough. That keeps us chasing the next best thing or the latest and the greatest new thing.
But we have this tool that is so powerful and that is the ability to realize that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. Nothing has gone terribly wrong, you’re not behind, you are where you were meant to be, learning the things you are meant to learn, living the life you were meant to live.
And I know this deep down but even still, periodically, I have to remind myself: I am exactly where I’m supposed to be. Everything is unfolding as it should, even when it feels like it’s not. Things are always working in my favor, even when they seem like they’re falling apart. I don’t know about you, but I’m way harder on myself than I’d ever be on anyone else. I think most of us are like that.
I catch myself wishing my body looked a certain way, or my podcast had a million downloads, or that paint color in my living room was just a shade different. It’s like my perfect life is always just over there—if I could only do this or have that, it’d all fall into place. But here’s the thing: when I find myself slipping into that mindset, I pause and ask, “What if this is perfect just as it is?”
That question—it’s a game-changer. It’s not about settling; it’s about accepting that what’s in front of me right now is just fine. It shifts my whole experience. Suddenly, my body isn’t “not enough”—it’s carrying me through life. My podcast isn’t “behind”—it’s reaching exactly who it’s meant to. Even that paint color? It’s part of the story of our house!
We spend so much time trying to arrange our worlds to be exactly as we think they should be. The perfect wife, the perfect daughter, the perfect friend. We tell ourselves, “Once everything’s in order, then I’ll be fulfilled.” Or maybe it’s stuff: the dream house, the latest car, the coolest clothes. We think, “If I just had that, my life would be perfect.”
But here’s what happens: we get those things, we love them for a bit, and then something new catches our eye. It’s a never-ending loop, right? And I don’t know about you but chasing goals can be fun—it’s exhilarating to be on that journey. Y’all know I’m all about growth and dreaming big. But when you’re always needing something else to feel fulfilled, when you’re always chasing that thing “over there” to feel at peace, when is it ever enough?
The answer is simple and hard all at once: it’s never enough until you decide it is.
I had this realization recently when I was looking at my own life. I’m a learning junkie—I love learning new things. For years, I told myself, “I’ll be successful when I get that four-year degree in interior design.” So I got it. Then I thought, “Okay, but I need a feng shui certification to have more credibility.” Got that too. Then it was, “If I could just sketch better…” So I took courses on that.
I was always chasing the next thing, thinking that’s what would make me enough. But the other day, I stopped and sat with it. I thought, “Wait a minute. I’m as successful as I want to be right now. Why do I want to take this next course?” And the answer hit me: because I’m enjoying the journey. Not because I’m incomplete without it, but because learning lights me up.
That shift in perspective? It’s everything. It’s like realizing you’re the one pulling the lever on your own roller coaster. We think someone else is in control—our parents guilting us, our coworker getting under our skin, that shiny new car we can’t stop thinking about.
But when you zoom out and look at your life from a bird’s-eye view, you see it: you’re the one in charge of your chaos. I’m the one letting Mom and Dad’s expectations weigh me down. I’m the one giving that coworker space in my head. I’m the one deciding I need that house to feel complete. And the beautiful thing? If I’m pulling the lever, I can choose to slow the ride down. So can you. That feeling that you will miss out if you don’t do or have that thing right now, that’s all created in your head. That feeling that you are behind messes with your ability to be present right now, and it’s just a feeling that you are fueling yourself. I know this because I do it. I almost rearranged my entire schedule so that I could take an Interior Design sketch class 2 weeks from now because I thought if only I had that right now, I can use it for my client meetings coming up. But it was creating a lot of anxiety in my head and when I actually sat down and looked at it, they have another class later in the year that is better suited to what I want to accomplish. Fear of missing out almost made me jump into a class that wasn’t what I really wanted anyway. I took the lever and slowed it down and guess what happened? Nothing bad. My anxiety went way down and now I will be able to really prepare and be ready to take a class when I am not in a rush. It feels good to slow down when you can see yourself adding chaos for no reason. You may think that next class or car or house is the answer to all your problems, but not if it creates other problems by rushing into it.
My challenge to you this week is to notice an area in your life where you’re chasing “perfect.” Maybe it’s your career, your relationships, your appearance. Ask yourself, “What if this is perfect just as it is?” Not forever, but right now. What if your messy, beautiful, in-progress life is exactly enough?
Then, think about your roller coaster. Where are you letting chaos run the show? Maybe it’s saying “yes” to things that don’t serve you, or scrolling through social media and comparing your life to someone else’s highlight reel. What’s one small way you can take back the lever? Maybe it’s setting a boundary, or taking five minutes to breathe and remind yourself: “I’m enough.”
I’m not saying it’s easy. This work is a practice, not a one-time fix. But every time you choose to accept your life as it is, every time you take back control of your roller coaster, you’re building a life that feels lighter, truer, and more yours.
You see, You are exactly where you’re supposed to be. Your life, with all its imperfections, is already enough. And the best part? You get to decide what comes next—not from a place of lack or fear of missing out, but from a place of joy and possibility.
You are the one that has total control of the roller coaster that is your life. What would happen if you slowed it down just a bit? If you’re like me, nothing bad. Share this with 3 people who may need a reminder that they are the ones controlling the lever of their life. I love you guys! I’ll talk to you in a few days!
