Hi guys! How’s it going out there? Its good to be with you as always! I was scrolling through X the other day, and I came across something that felt so good and so right that I just had to share it with you guys. It felt like a little hug from the universe, which who doesn’t need that every once in a while? Because let’s be real, we all have those days that feel heavier than they should, and sometimes we just need a reminder that it’s okay to slow down. When life feels like it’s carrying a little extra weight, it’s nice to know someone has your back, even if that someone is you.
Here’s what I read on X:
“Some days just feel heavy—for no clear reason. It’s like a fog settles over your thoughts, and nothing quite clicks. That’s okay. Not every day has to be productive or positive. Some days are just meant for slowing down.”
I don’t know about you, but that hit me right in the heart. It’s so easy to feel like every day needs to be a win—check off the to-do list, crush your goals, be your best self. But life doesn’t work that way. Some days, you’re just… off. And that’s not a failure; it’s human. The post went on to say:
“When you’re overwhelmed or low, your mind loves to dig up every old fear, regret, or doubt. But one bad day doesn’t undo all the good in your life. It doesn’t mean you’re failing, and it definitely doesn’t mean it’ll always be like this.”
That last line felt like a deep breath. It’s basically permission to feel what you’re feeling without letting it define you. Letting you know, You don’t have to fix everything today. You don’t need all the answers right now. Just be gentle with yourself. Cancel the noise. That was so comforting to me, and I bet it resonates with you too.
I think this hits especially hard for women. With all the hormones we juggle—whether it’s monthly cycles, pregnancy, menopause, or just life stages—it’s easy to feel like something’s wrong when we’re down. Like, “Oh no, is this going to last forever?” But here’s the truth: it’s usually just a moment. A fleeting fog. And if we let ourselves feel it without judgment, we can move through it.
But it’s not just hormones. Life changes constantly. Friends come and go. Family dynamics shift. Pets, jobs, seasons—nothing stays the same forever. And I think one of the biggest traps we fall into is believing things should be permanent. We fight change, agonize over it, when really, we could choose to make the best of what’s in front of us right now.
I felt like this quote was sent just for me, right when I needed to hear it, when I was having one of those moments. This last week, we had family in town for my niece’s graduation. It was so fun—we laughed, we lounged way too long over lunch just enjoying each other’s company, we ate way too much cake because it was also my husband Eric’s birthday. We were celebrating new phases of the people we love the most and it felt so good. Then, poof—everyone went home, Eric went back to work, and I was alone in a quiet house, staring at all the laundry and the left over birthday cookies and it left me feeling…kind of heavy. Not only because it was so lonely in the house with the contrast of just the day before but also because I had eaten too much sugar and I felt that too. I felt that fog I mentioned earlier roll in, and suddenly I was telling myself, Am I sad because everyone’s gone or is it more than that? I had also heard about Scott Adams having terminal cancer and that added on And then of course it started to snowball to the point where I was beating myself up for all I had eaten the last few days where I told myself “I dont care. I’m tired of agonizing over everything I eat, its too hard and It’s getting harder the older I get.”
Have you ever done that? Taken one tough moment and spun it into a story about how everything’s falling apart? I caught myself mid-spiral and thought, “Whoa, that’s not true. You do care. You always will.” It was just a moment, not my forever.
Here’s the thing: those moments can trick us into making things worse. For me, what makes a bad day spiral is giving in to habits I know don’t serve me. Like finishing off the leftover cake because “I already ate bad anyway.” Or scrolling social media, which, let’s be honest, never makes me feel better. Worst of all is letting those negative thoughts run wild—those “I’m not enough” or “This is too hard” stories we tell ourselves.
But I’ve found there’s another way. Instead of leaning into what makes it worse, I focus on what makes it better. That day when I realized I was spiraling, I grabbed my King Charles Spaniels, Sonny and Charlie, and went for a walk. The Fresh air, seeing their little wiggle butts with their wagging tails, and also getting in a little movement—it’s like hitting reset. While I walked, I started listing things I’m grateful for: my niece’s smile at her graduation, spending time with all of my family, the fact that I have these two furry buddies running around. It didn’t fix everything, but it shifted my perspective.
Movement and gratitude—they’re like medicine for the soul. They don’t erase the heavy days, but they help you carry them a little lighter. And the best part? You don’t need to be perfect at it. You just need to remember it’s not forever, and there are things that make it harder on you and there are things that make it better and you control those things.
So, here’s my challenge to you: the next time you feel that fog settling in, give yourself permission to pause. You don’t have to be productive or positive every single day. Feel what you’re feeling—let it move through you. But don’t let it define you. Ask yourself: What makes this worse? What makes it better? Maybe it’s a walk, a call with a friend, or just sitting with a cup of tea and reminding yourself of one thing you’re super grateful for.
You are not your worst day. You are not your doubts or your fears. You’re a work in progress, just like me, navigating a world that’s always changing. And that’s okay. Those heavy days? They’re just part of the journey. They make the good days sweeter, and they remind us to be kind to ourselves.
So, Let’s embrace the messy, beautiful, ever-changing life. And when the fog rolls in, let’s choose to move through it—one step, one breath, one moment of gratitude at a time. Share this with 3 people who may need to hear everything is going to be OK. I love you guys, Ill talk to you in a few days!
