Hi guys! Welcome to episode 181 of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! Thanks for listening and thanks for sharing the episodes! I don’t know about you but I love to hear when people talk about the best advice they have ever had and then they add on how they are applying it…so I thought I would do that for you guys this week!
I’ve chosen 8 that I have used pretty consistently over the years…
#1. Comes from someone that was my boss but has now been a long time friend. I interviewed him on my podcast, Eddie Scruggs: people will tell you who they are if you just watch. Not listen. So many times we want to believe what people say, but the more important thing is to believe what people DO. If someone says you are the most important thing in the world to them but they are constantly blowing you off…You have to watch their actions to understand what they’re really telling you. People will tell you what they really feel if you watch their actions instead of listening to their words. So watch their actions and then believe them.
#2. This next one comes from my dad. It’s about the cost of credit. I was a teenager with my first job at Goldsmith’s. They gave me a credit card with a 500.00 limit. I bought a bathing suit that was $85. Of course I didn’t pay it off right away and just paid the minimum payments, so he showed me that the bathing suit ultimately ended up costing over $300. I’ve never forgotten that. If you can’t afford to buy it with cash or pay it off monthly, you probably don’t need it. You’re literally throwing money away.
#3. Comes from My mom: When I was younger my dad would go off to work each morning and we would go about our day, but around the time it was about time for him to come home my mom would put makeup on and start rolling her hair and be making dinner at the same time. One day I asked her if she was going somewhere and she said no, why? I said well you’re getting all fixed up, you look so pretty, I thought you must be going somewhere. She said, “you’re daddy is coming home and I don’t want him coming home to a mess” She still fixes herself up for him and they have been married over 50 years. She taught me to always make yourself the best you can, not only for yourself but for your partner too, Don’t let them forget why they chose you. It matters, maybe that’s part of the secret to a long marriage.
#4. Is from my first real mentor and self growth teacher, Tony Robbins. Honestly I have heard him say it so many times, but I only really understood it in the last 5 years. He says “Life is happening FOR you not TO you”. Everything we do in life, if we look at how it is working out for us, we will find those things, if we are always focused on why me and whoa is me, you’ll attract more of that too. This last week my favorite daily podcast was taken down for copyright issues. I was bummed for a min but you know what it made me look for new things and I found a couple new podcasts with some great messages I needed to hear. Life is happening FOR you not TO you. It’s not always easy to do, but it’s one statement that will change your life if you let it.
#5. I can’t have this episode without my favorite quote from Wayne Dyer. I know you’ve heard me talk about it: other people’s opinion of me is none of my business. The only person that needs to approve of you is YOU. And you know when you’re doing the things that make you proud of yourself and when you’re not, no-one has to tell you. This is another very very hard one, especially if you’ve been hardwired to be a people pleaser but tying your feeling of approval to other people is a recipe for misery every single time.
#6. Comes from Nutritionist, Scott Quick: Change one habit at a time. Don’t try to drastically change your diet all at once, it isn’t sustainable for most people. Just start eliminating one thing you’re doing that you know is adding to your problem (and lets be real, we all know the main culprits if we are being honest) But once you have mastered that one new habit, pick another one and work on that one next. Drastic changes are rarely sustainable because you feel deprived and when you feel deprived, it’s a matter of time before you give in.
#7 is from my hubby, the one and only Eric Dawson: I have used this so many times. “Never respond when you’re mad”. Don’t send an email, text, or make a phone call when you’re angry”. Calm down, think it through, oftentimes it will work itself out without you having to do a thing. I had an issue come up recently with a client and our contractor and before I ever even had to get involved it had worked itself out…sometimes, just let things sit a minute. I’ve been working on just letting things “sit a minute”.
#8. Last but not least, from Abraham Hicks: This one is a bit controversial and it’s only because society has taught us to be different. But here it is: It’s ok to be selfish. It’s ok to live life on your own terms. You have to love yourself first before you can truly love others, you have to take care of yourself first before you can give to others, if you are always giving to others without taking care of yourself, sooner or later you’ll run out of things to give and you will be left feeling empty, overwhelmed and burned out. Your relationships with other people will actually get better if you take care of yourself first.
I’m sure there are others but these are the ones that stand out for me the most and I have used them the most.
