Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 500 of the Wildly Successful Lifestyle podcast! I love a milestone, don’t you? 500 episodes feels like a big milestone. I love that we get to be together for 10 or so minutes twice a week with the pure intention of just being the best version of ourselves. I will keep doing this as long as it feels like I can’t stop and as long as it feels like the right thing to do. Thank you for listening and supporting this podcast and showing up for yourself and for the world because when you’re the best you can be, you’re inspiring others to be too so you’re changing the world and for that I thank you so here’s to another 500 maybe who knows where we’ll be! I feel like America feels happier and lighter and like anything is possible for all of us. I hope you feel that way too because it’s true. It’s important to surround yourself with people that lift you up. Do you have that? Family or friends that make you better too? Maybe they inspire you to be healthier or maybe they encourage you to challenge yourself and really open your mind to new ideas. Your peer group matters. I hope you spend time with people that are doing big things, thinking in different ways….
Don’t you just love friends that make you think? I love spending time with people who are deep thinkers or make me think about things in a different way.
I was late recently on a trip with several of our good friends and I was talking to my friend Cassandra and she was telling me about a game that she was playing with her family and how you had to answer these interesting questions when it was your turn. She said one of questions that really stumped everyone was “what are you lying to yourself about?” She said it was really hard for anyone to answer that question and I thought oh my goodness that is a hard one! So of course now I’m sitting there thinking ok, can I come up with something I’m lying to myself about and then I thought, oh my goodness, I can’t think of anything….well, of course not because you’re lying to yourself about it. I thought about this question probably way too much which is probably why it’s made its way into an episode.
We all have these little white lies that we tell ourselves. They usually aren’t malicious. They’re usually designed to keep us comfortable or keep us from feeling pain, but here’s the thing…. recognizing these little lies can help us take our lives to the next level can help us grow in a way we wouldn’t if we allow the lie to continue. Sometimes it’s freeing in a way you could have never understood if you hadn’t confronted those lies head on.
Now maybe you’re like me and you say “I cant think of anything I lie to myself about, …let me throw a few phrases out that might change your mind. Do you ever say “I’ll start tomorrow or next week, so you keep telling yourself you’ll join the gym or start eating healthy next week…how about I deserve this…so maybe the extra drink is always justified or the dessert or a pair of shoes you can’t really afford….Here’s a big one…”It’s not my fault” maybe you blame other people when things don’t turn out the way you wanted instead of accepting full responsibility for every aspect of your life. Something I can really relate to is saying “I don’t care”. Saying I don’t care when really you do. There’s so many ways we lie to ourselves so that we don’t have to face the truth or so we don’t have to deal with uncomfortable emotions. I’m definitely guilty of that.
I talked a couple episodes ago about how I was lying to myself for the last couple of years, I wanted so badly to believe that I had forgiven my sister, and let go of the anger over her shunning me and my husband from her and her family over religion. I kept saying to myself that I forgive her that I’m finding peace over her and I’m no longer angry and I really wanted to believe it but then I kept having that dream and over and over and I realized I’m lying to myself I do still have anger for her. Once I acknowledged that it allowed my to dig a little deeper and find out where the anger was coming from, ultimately I realized I thought she had ruined our family but our family is in tact, it’s just fine, yeah it’s changed a bit but we are ok. I don’t have to be angry anymore. Once I knew that, I felt the anger just sort of evaporate, it didn’t have to be there anymore. Letting go of that anger has lifted a weight off of me I didn’t know was there. You probably have some of that too.
Are there things in your life that you say don’t matter but really they do? Are there times you say you don’t care but really you do? In an effort to protect yourself you are actually blocking yourself from healing and moving into a place where you find true peace instead of avoidance.
My challenge to you this week is to see if you can catch yourself saying any of these little lies to yourself. Being honest with yourself is the only way you can be the best that you can be, you trust yourself a little less every time you tell yourself a lie, no matter how small. I challenge you to stop doing that. , You can be ok with where you are today without needing to lie about where you’ll be tomorrow. You can accept where you are today with integrity and then be intentional with everything you tell yourself from that point forward. Share this with 3 people who are ready to be honest with themselves. I love you guys! I’ll see you in a few days at episode 501!
