Hi guys! Welcome to Episode 407 of the wildly successful lifestyle podcast! Thanks for being here!
I saw a video the other day of a young girl, probably 20 on a bus I don’t know where it was but the bus was moving and the video was taken from the bus’s surveillance, anyway this girl saw a man was trying to steal an older gentleman’s wallet, thinking quickly, she disrupts the act by tripping forward and alerting the elderly man to watch his pocket, to which the guy attempting to steal the wallet got very upset and started to go after the young girl. Another man saw all of this go down and as the girl passed him trying to get a way from the angry guy, remember they are on a moving bus, she’s not going far, so as she hurries by him to get to the front of the bus away from him, this other man stands up calmly between the theif and the girl and basically stares at him to let him know if you’re going to go after her you’re going to have to do it through me. And the guy quickly turned around realizing he wasn’t gonna come away from that altercation without big problems. For me, I say thank god for that masculine man. He may have saved that girl’s life, who knows?
It seems like society in a way has tried to demonize masculine men, when masculine men are the reason society is safe, in my opinion.
Now, I am a feminine woman, so I see the world through a feminine woman’s eyes obviously. For me, I would like to thank the men out there that are doing what they can to provide for, care for, and protect their families. I don’t think they get enough appreciation for that.
I was talking to one of my single friends this week and she was saying that she ran into a young man that was in the air force and she said I thought all men in the air force were like your husband, my husband was in the air force for 12 years, she went on to say this guy was nothing like him, he wasn’t a gentlemen, I was freezing and I wanted him to stand in front of me to shield me from the wind and he was just like why would I stand in front of you, just completely clueless. She was saying how nice it would be to have a man that she felt safe with and had her back always. Now, I sort of beat my husband up a little bit on the last episode so I don’t mind bragging on him a bit here, he’s one of those truly masculine men that makes me and just really anyone he’s around feel safe because he’s a big strong guy and he comes off as someone that you just wouldn’t want to mess with, even though he really is the kindest most thoughtful man I know, but I know that if he needed to, he would do what he needed to do to protect me and anyone we are with.
You know, He’s one of those guys that always wants to sit facing the door in a restaurant so he keeps an eye on things, and his head is on a swivel whenever we are out and about to make sure he gets ahead of anything that seems out of sorts. I feel so safe whenever I’m with him and for that I don’t think he gets enough acknowledgement.
And look, I know there are women and men out there that are going to feel uncomfortable hearing this but….
In a world where we say everyone should be accepted as they are….why then are we shaming our boys away from masculine traits?
I feel like we should be celebrating our masculine men rather than shaming them. I feel like we should be encouraging more boys to look up to masculine men rather than be ashamed of their own masculine tendencies. The parents that make a boy feel ashamed because he wants to do boy things, I think that’s a problem. I say let them be boys. Teach them to grow into their masculinity in a way that doesn’t shame them for it. We need MORE strong masculine men, not less. We need to stuff the term toxic masculinity into the wastebasket of history. If someone is toxic, we all know it, we don’t have to create a term for it, the society uses the term toxic masculinity now is kind of a joke in my opinion, but the joke is on whoever came up with the term because….
The real men in this world roll their eyes when they hear someone say toxic masculinity They just quietly go about their business, taking care of things and making sure we’re all safe rather than arguing for their right to be accepted for who they are as well. Just like in every group there are masculine guys who use their masculinity in a way that isn’t good…feminine women do the same, masculine women do the same, feminine men do the same, but we don’t condemn the entirety of those groups because of what a few do, or we shouldn’t anyway. So let’s not lump all the masculine guys into a shamed group.
Society will say oh you should be accepted as you are and then tell men they must downplay their masculine traits so that other people aren’t intimidated or offended. They throw the term toxic masculinity around like it’s the biggest problem we have in todays’ world. But if a man is having a problem being a real man, there’s probably a woman close to him creating that problem.
I celebrate my strong man, I’m proud to be his wife. You should feel proud to celebrate your strong man too. Women are not in competition with our men. I don’t feel less than simply because I am celebrating him. Yes we are equals in that we’re human. We are all born equal. But he has strengths I don’t have thank God and I have strengths he doesn’t have. A strong masculine man with integrity will stand up for what’s right every time. We need that. I have often said that being married to a strong masculine man makes me feel safe to be in my feminine energy which is where I naturally feel the best.
We don’t need less masculine men, I believe we need more. They say that hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men and weak men create hard times.
If it weren’t for our strong men in the world, we wouldn’t have peace. We wouldn’t have prosperity, we wouldn’t have advances, we wouldn’t have oil rig workers, skyscrapers, railroad, steel workers, and bricklayers.
So Let’s not be afraid to celebrate our strong men and raise our boys to be just like them. To the strong men out there, never stop opening our doors for us, keep taking the lead, we like it, we also like that you have strong convictions and make long term plans and when it comes to picking the restaurant, we love it when you make the decision and have the reservation already made. We love that you want to protect us and that you tirelessly work to make us feel safe.
My challenge to you today is tell the strong men in your life thank you, and if you are a strong man, I say thank you and keep it up! Share this with 3 strong men, I love you guys, Ill talk to you in a few days!
